Does your blog make you feel good?
If your answer is yes, chances are it is extending that wonderful feeling to your readers as well. Feeling good is a bit like yawning, you can’t do it without affecting others. Its contagious. So is being miserable in your writing. Writing a constructive rant is one thing but nobody wants to read stuff that brings everyone down, all the time.
What kind of blogger would you rather be? Positive and inspiring others, or a whiny one. Nobody likes whingers, at least that’s what I notice around me. And that’s what I teach my kids too.
I am a huge fan of those bloggers who can put a positive spin on just about anything. It is my utmost pleasure to read what they have to say. You read these people and you feel like you can do anything. They give you that extra something you need from your reading – something to tell you it’s all going to work out in the end.
You can write like that too.
You don’t have to be the world’s most optimistic person. You just have to be human.
Be HAPPY
Have a cheerful disposition in real life? When people see you, does it put a smile on their faces or do they think ..uh oh.
Being a joyful person that you are, let your blog posts reflect that. I am not suggesting that we all need to only write about the good things, after all what’s the purpose of having a blog where you can’t let loose and do an occasional rant. But really, there is a lot of misery in real life, much gloom and doom. Talk about that if you must, but it pays if people leave your blog feeling much better.
Be HELPFUL
Your blog has to do either one of two things, either it entertains or it helps.
Make your writing useful. Provide some value to your readers. When you provide genuine help to your readers, they see it’s not all about you. Yes, it’s all about your writing but for what? Feel better about yourself or some other higher purpose.
I write to help myself and .. others.
Educate yourself by helping others. In helping others lies your sense of achievement and pride. Do your part.
Be HUMOROUS
There is nothing sadder than not being able to laugh at oneself or to not see the lighter side of things. It’s truly amazing what laughter can do to brighten up a room, how it lifts everybody’s spirits.
Laughter is generosity. It means you are interacting in a way that is neither judgemental, nor serious. People love it when there is unexpected humour amongst all the serious stuff. It’s like the icing on the cake for me.
When you write lightly, it means you encourage others to look at things in a new perspective. All of a sudden, things seem better and it keeps everything in perspective.
Be HOPEFUL
It keeps everyone going.
I am sure everyone has those days when everything seems to take a turn for the worst. Nothing goes according to plan and after few such days, it’s quite easy to start questioning the purpose of it all. It’s a state of depression and it strikes us all. I too suffer from it and in those days you don’t even know what hope looks like. On that day I long to find something that offers hope, something that reminds me why I am doing it all. Could your blog do this for your readers?
Share your successes with your readers. People love a happy ending.
Share your hard lessons you learnt. People love you when you refuse to stay down and show them how to come out smiling.
Do you have any stories to tell? You will find many listeners. Be positive. Be that blogger.
Be HUMAN
Show your human side. Make people relate to you. They like hearing a human voice, something that is real, honest and well… just human.
Be human, be yourself and all will be well.
On a day when I am following my H religion, nobody is more successful on the planet than me. There is nothing that I cannot achieve. On a day like this, I want to write a post like this and share it with everybody.
Not everyday is like that, and sometimes I don’t get to meet all things H for many days. One those days it’s impossible to write a cheerful post. On those days, I look forward to reading all other bloggers who are humorous and help out others by reminding us that there is always hope. They remind us that this is all part of being human. And we are happy.
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Rashmi... Says :
I really appreciate your analysis about blogging and above all helping others too, to do better in the same. There is not even a single point where I disagree with you in this post. All these Hs make the blog more interesting and appealing. Especially people like me love to read such posts where you find happiness, help, humor, hope and above all a human voice.
Thanks for posting!!!
Marya Says :
HI Rashmi, thanks very much for your reply. I was a bit hesistant intially, posting this. I thought, oh people are just gonna skip through the post. Most of us have become pretty jaded. But it’s good to know that there are still people who like to read positive posts. Have a good day! 🙂
Shail Raghuvanshi Says :
Hi Marya,
Came across your blog. Quite interesting. Keep writing. It surely is a ‘therapy’ for the writer as well as the reader.
Marya Says :
YES! Somebody who GETS my blog name. YAYYYYYYY. Thank you, thank you. You just made my day Shail. Hope you drop by again. Cheers 🙂
joymcdee Says :
Thank you, Marya – you made my day. – Now to get to my writing!!
Marya Says :
Thank you Joy. The feeling is indeed mutual. Have a good one! 🙂
Sandra Bell Kirchman Says :
Hi, Marya,
I enjoy and relate to your philosophy. There is nothing that makes me run away faster than someone who wants to describe their last operation down to the final gruesome detail. They positively thrive on recounting their misery. I, on the other hand, am just counting the minutes until I can decently leave without hurting the other person’s feelings or offending them.
Talking about our own miseries can get to be a habit. I have had the habit myself. Fortunately, I am by nature a cheerful and enthusiastic person and can talk myself down from the addiction. At least I am aware of it.
And you, dear lady, are such a good example of the H principle. I really missed you when you were away for so long. Needed that little Marya sparkle to perk me up sometimes 🙂 Here’s a *hug* for the H practitioner.
Marya Says :
Thanks so much Sandra for taking time out to write that. As much as I want to stay consistent with posting, I keep pulling disappearing acts due to circumstances that are beyond my control. I know, if I want to build this blog, I can not go away for weeks, absolutely not. I have to do something to not let this happen again. In the meantime, its good to know that somebody actually cares that I have been away. Hugs right back at ya! 🙂
Sandra Bell Kirchman Says :
One of the great features of WordPress is that you can store posts in advance to be published on the days you designate. You probably already know that, but it helps to know you can do that and not feel so tied down to your blog.
I know you are a busy mother, wife, writer, businesswoman and student. You hardly have any time. However, if you do half an extra blog each time you blog, you will start storing up some extras.
Also there may be some others out there who aren’t aware of that feature. It’s in the area above the “Publishing” icon in the New Post or Update Post right hand menu.
Marya Says :
Hi Sandra, thanks for reminding me. I did know that this feature exists, however the hardest part is to sit and actually write something down. I never find the time, I will actually do a post about this soon.
I have changed the look of my blog. I wanted wider text, and lack of it has been bugging me for a while. I also wanted a minimalist, professional look. What do you think?
Also you are right on most counts except I am not a businesswoman .. I left work about 7 years ago to take care of my kids and now slowly I am easing back into it. But yes I am teacher, a student, a writer and a blogger. Hoping to develop this into my little online business venture ..fingers crossed. 🙂
Sandra Bell Kirchman Says :
I like the new layout of your blog very much. It has a nice professional look as you say. I also like the addition of the graphics to the post.
However, I think you could have a nice, modest header at the top, perhaps even design it yourself to your tastes and wishes. It looks a little bare without a banner.
I do like your new picture. Your first pic was quite pretty, but it looked hopeful. This one portrays you as more relaxed and sure of yourself.
Oops, about your profession. I couldn’t remember and didn’t take the time to look it up. Sorry. I do think, with your easy, caring posts, that you could make this into a very nice business venture.
Marya Says :
Thanks for your opinion, its much appreciated.
You are totally right about the header. But as I haven’t gotten around to getting my logo designed, its good that I don’t have to worry about it right now. As soon as I have a desired number of subscribers and I am feeling more confident, I’ll spend some money and invest in logo and couple of other things. For now, I am really happy with this one.
Also thanks for your input about the photo. This is a few months old, actually taken when I had gone for my holiday. Just looking at it makes me feel confident and happy. And that’s the mood I want to set for my blog. 🙂 Gotta run now, have to start dinner. Hope everything’s great at your end. 🙂
Kelly
Hi, its refreshing to see people still believing in the goodness of things today. It was indeed a pleasure reading your post. I am subscribing!
Kelly
Marya Says :
Thanks very much Kelly. Much appreciated! 🙂
softlinksautomation Says :
Hi, went through your blog, it’s very nice crispy and clear … most off, I like the happiness that you rub on reader … great. I am learning a lot from here so wanted to share with you. By the way I am new to blogging and building my skills on it. I felt the messages spreading from blog are very important. I wish it should reach out to all who needs the most.
Marya Says :
Hi. Many thanks for the kind words. Hope to see you again soon!
westwood Says :
Great advice! And yet it is so easy to tell when a blogger is trying too hard to be cheerful… being genuine is key.
marya
Yes, you are right. That has to come from the heart, you cannot force cheerfulness. Thank you.