My Secrets of Living a (much) Happier Life :)

Ever wonder why some people get to be so happy? So far, I have established one thing, happiness is somehow tied to simplicity in life .. the simpler your life is, apparently the happier you are going to be.

I like to think that I am a fairly happy person. It might not have been the case just a year ago but in the last year alone, I have managed to rediscover my self. I was able to achieve all of my goals – and more. Through sheer hard work and determination, and with a positive approach to life.

I started my kids in a great school and daycare, got in my Post Grad diploma of Teaching in a highly prestigious university of my choice.

I changed house, bought new furniture along the way and topped it of with a new SUV a few days ago.

I started my blog that got great exposure when my Blogging Tips post made it to freshly pressed – for four days. YAY! I also got great readers and subscribers, who wouldn’t have found me otherwise. I also found great writers and bloggers to learn from. 🙂 I got some work published on the web, a great start in the world of web writing.

I completed two teaching placements and one year (half) of my teaching degree. Phew! It’s hard to believe I actually survived.

After my parents’ visit from overseas, I am going for a holiday of about 6 weeks with my family. YAYYY 🙂 Leaving on Jan 15, so get in your comments early. 🙂

So yes I have had a very good year. This brought on a sudden burst of inspiration to write something light-hearted on life and happiness, taking a break from blogging and writing advice. Psst .. it helped to read The 100 Simple Secrets of Happy People: What Scientists Have Learned and How You Can Use It by David Niven as well.

Here goes

My top tips that are helping me to lead a truly happy life.

Have a Purpose and Meaning in your Life

Set goals in your life and make sure they are in perfect harmony with each other. They are life tyres of your car, they must move in the same direction. If they conflict with each other, you will end up being very stressed out and dissatisfied with your life. 

Invest in Friendships

Life without close, meaningful relationships is meaningless.

You do not have to be a social butterfly, however true friends will make you come alive. Take care of your friends and reap the rewards of belonging.

Friendship beats money, hands down. Tell your friends what they mean to you and make their day, as well as yours. Keep your word. 

A happy life

It Hurts to Compare with Unrealistic Standards

Think of those whose examples are worthy but make sure you stay true to yourself. 

Have realistic expectations. You are a person, not a stereotype. Be comfortable in your own skin.

Be grateful that you are fortunate than many. Accept yourself. Believe in yourself – Just not too much.

Ask for help when you need it and share your problems with your mates.

Every relationship is different, don’t compare yours with your friend’s.

Let your goals evolve or you will get seriously hurt. Do the things you are good at. Money is not the end to all problems. 

Turn off the TV

Excessive tv watching takes you away from life. Your partners and kids literally need to shout to be heard. It makes you lazy and makes you take your relationships for granted. Do not take tv’s view of the world, the picture is tainted. 

Be Open to New Experiences

Life-long learning is the key to life long fun. Get a hobby, be it dance, cooking class, new form of exercise or some course at the university; try something new to stay young and fresh. Volunteer your time in your community. Join a group. Have fun. 

If You are Not Sure, Guess Positively

If somebody is being nice, do they have an agenda or are they a nice person? Are you the type of person who stays positive, or assumes the worst? Try banishing this self-defeating habit and see the profound effect on your life. Check  out positivity blog’s 5 powerful questions that can help make 2011 a fantastic year for you.

Be Happy

Develop a Household Routine

If your life is all over the place, you will dread waking up in the morning. You will be harried, rushed and overly stressed trying to manage your average day. Surround yourself with beautiful things and wonderful smells. Enjoy the ordinary. 

Get a Good Night Sleep

Works wonders. Exercise and get physically active. Its nothing like feeling your best throughout the day. 

Keep Your Family Close

Develop shared interests with your loved ones. 

Be Thankful

Pay attention to your life, you might already have that you really need.

Your definition of success has to be your own. Remember to think good, your life is a success based on your judgement only. Keep perspective, maintain integrity.

  2010 was my happiness project, check out Gretchen Rubin’s site for her book in which she documented her year long happiness project. What has made you particularly happy with yourself the past year? Any major goals, any outstanding achievements? Please share. What are your best tips for being happy?

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  1. mehmudah Says :
    Posted on January 13, 2011 at 7:20 pm

    Marya, this is an excellent post! Bravo!

  2. knot2share Says :
    Posted on January 13, 2011 at 7:46 pm

    Will this become a one stop shop for anything that we are looking for?? :-). Just kidding!

    Can I also add one more to the list of tips?? You said TURN OF THE TV. Let me also add TURN OFF THE PC!

    BE OPEN TO NEW EXPERIENCES – this is something I have taken up seriously this year and I am looking forward to it.

    Your tips well shared with everyone! Wishing you a fabulous time off. Enjoy, eat well, relax and lots of shopping!!!

    • maryawrites Says :
      Posted on January 14, 2011 at 3:05 pm

      Hi. Good to see you again. 🙂 Well!!! One stop shop for a FEW things I am interested in ..hehehe. Very hard for me to get away from my computer. Thanks for your wishes, I intend to do all that you have said – and post as well. You will see more of me pretty soon. 🙂 See ya

  3. joymcdee Says :
    Posted on January 14, 2011 at 1:45 am

    Such wonderful advice! I’ve lived by it for years and see marvelous things happen. (I published my first novel (Killing the Cure) this year and have another started. I find I work better with a goal in front of me. I do sometimes set goals too high and am forced to reevaluate them. I’m my own worst boss. Thanks for the upbeat start to my day! have a great holiday.

    • maryawrites Says :
      Posted on January 14, 2011 at 3:02 pm

      Congrats on your novel, hope you get to publish many. Thanks for dropping by. 🙂

  4. Sandra Bell Kirchman Says :
    Posted on January 14, 2011 at 3:21 am

    Hurray for happiness. When a person is truly happy, they exude an aura that beckons others. 2010 was a horrible year for me, and I’m afraid I often lost my positivity (I am normally a positive and enthusiastic person). One of my goals for 2011 is to be happy.

    I would add to your list: BE ENTHUSIASTIC about what you are doing…get involved in it. Standing on the fringes only makes you feel separated and miserable. Getting involved helps you have great experiences and leads to inner satisfaction. (Note: I don’t mean you can’t say no to projects, but if you accept one, get truly involved.)

    Sandra Bell Kirchman
    Wizards and Ogres and Elves…oh my!

    • maryawrites Says :
      Posted on January 14, 2011 at 3:01 pm

      Hi Sandra. Sorry you had it tough this past year. Hope that 2011 id your year. 🙂 I totally agree with your tip, being passionate and enthusiastic about your thing is a must. I guess I forgot to add it because I think its a given, know what I mean? See you soon.

  5. shirleymclain930 Says :
    Posted on January 14, 2011 at 3:41 am

    Myra excellent job and information. It is a fact the more complications in your life leads to more stress and stress can lead to unhappiness.

    Friendship is a wonderful thing. I am in Vegas now with a girlfriend. We have made many trips together over years and it puts joy in both of our lives.

    Once again great job.

    • maryawrites Says :
      Posted on January 14, 2011 at 2:58 pm

      Friendship is indeed precious. Nothing like sharing your successes with dear friends. Hope you are having a wonderful time with your friend. See ya soon 🙂

  6. Rajiv Says :
    Posted on January 14, 2011 at 5:52 am

    Great advice Marya…
    As usual i find ‘following this blog’ is worth 🙂
    thanks for sharing wonderful post

    • maryawrites Says :
      Posted on January 14, 2011 at 2:56 pm

      Hi Rajiv, thanks very much for that. Keep smiling. 🙂 Cheers

  7. ACHS Job Lady aka Mrs. Cain Says :
    Posted on January 14, 2011 at 6:08 am

    I agree. The simplier my life has become, the happier I’ve become. I’d like to add that throughout the year, I assess what is positive in my life (including people). The negative, if any gets assessed and sometimes disgarded. It works for me!

    Great post!

    • maryawrites Says :
      Posted on January 14, 2011 at 2:55 pm

      That’s a great strategy and often not very easy to carry out. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  8. aquatom1968 Says :
    Posted on January 14, 2011 at 7:31 am

    Another great post, Marya! It has appeared at the right time again for me…!

    Enjoy your holiday! 😀

    • maryawrites Says :
      Posted on January 14, 2011 at 2:54 pm

      Thanks very much. Will continue to post from my parents’ house. 🙂 See ya

  9. HaleyWhitehall Says :
    Posted on January 14, 2011 at 8:35 am

    Marya, I agree completely with your list. I do well with the first two and the last two. I will have to work harder to follow the others. Great post. You have found your niche for sure. Have a great holiday. I hope you will tell us all about it when you get back 🙂

    • maryawrites Says :
      Posted on January 14, 2011 at 2:54 pm

      Thanks very much. Its good to see people liking this kind of thing – one can never be sure. 🙂 As far as my holiday is concerned, I have better news, I will be posting regularly so will be seeing my readers. Have a good day!

  10. wulanadian
    Posted on January 14, 2011 at 1:12 pm

    Oh I love this post! Well done Marya! I always like the personal-subjective post better than others. Blog is supposed to be like that anyway, right?
    Hope you have a good holiday.

    • maryawrites Says :
      Posted on January 14, 2011 at 2:52 pm

      Thank you. I agree with you, I am trying to find the right mix of personal and the ‘learnt’ thing but I just might be getting there. Thanks for your wishes, as it is a long holiday (I will be staying at my parents’ house), I will still be posting. See you later. 🙂

  11. Princess B Says :
    Posted on January 14, 2011 at 8:42 pm

    Hi there
    Your blog is wonderful

    • maryawrites Says :
      Posted on January 15, 2011 at 1:28 pm

      Thanks very much. Hope to see more of you soon. 🙂

  12. Laura Best Says :
    Posted on January 16, 2011 at 4:21 am

    Enjoyed this post and all the wonderful tips you offered.

  13. bookjunkie Says :
    Posted on January 18, 2011 at 5:19 am

    I loved your tips…I definitely need to be more open to new experiences 🙂

  14. dari mohamed Says :
    Posted on January 19, 2011 at 5:52 am

    Je vais vous unir et ouvrir une nouvelle page intitulée Ma confiance en moi

  15. A Blogger Says :
    Posted on January 23, 2011 at 5:05 pm

    This is another great post with great advice! Your blog was the first one I looked at from wordpress.com when I decided to start my own blog and inspired me so much. Thanks continuing to be an inspiration!

    • maryawrites Says :
      Posted on April 8, 2011 at 3:59 pm

      Oh wow… thanks so much for that. Exactly what I need to read today. Thank heaps. 🙂

  16. Quidmont Says :
    Posted on February 18, 2011 at 2:33 pm

    Hi Maryawrites,

    We’ve never met, but my name’s Bob Johnston and I blog under the name Quidmont. A friend who blogs under ClassyRose has initiated something for Random Acts of Kindness Week to encourage meeting new people in the blogging community. If you’re interested, you can see her original post at …


    I’ve stopped by and like what I see. I’m hitting “subscribe” and I’ll be back.

    Good to meet you! 🙂

    – Bob (Quidmont) Johnston

    • maryawrites Says :
      Posted on April 8, 2011 at 3:56 pm

      Hi Bob, sorry it has taken me so long to reply back. (see my latest post). Thanks very much for your kind words and I look forward to getting to know you better. I went over to your site for a quick look …. aspiring author eh? Will hold on to you …. 🙂

  17. postadaychallenge2011 Says :
    Posted on February 18, 2011 at 3:50 pm

    Thanks for your blog and the wonderful writing tips. I love to read and write. I am putting together a poems book now for publish. Have a great day my new friend here on wordpress.

  18. confusedyuppie Says :
    Posted on February 25, 2011 at 5:21 pm

    particularly agree with the ‘purpose’ part. im glad u put it first.life without purpose is aimless and soulless!

    • maryawrites Says :
      Posted on April 8, 2011 at 3:58 pm

      Exactly. And thats the first thing I question when I am feeling low. Cannot survive living a life that doesn’t have a purpose. Cheers 🙂

  19. Nida Says :
    Posted on March 6, 2011 at 1:59 am

    Great post..interesting and helpful 🙂