One Thing Every New (Or Old) Entrepreneur Needs

My 10 year old is smart.

Really, really smart.

stamp_of_approvalAcademically, he is way ahead of his class mates.

He works on advanced topics all by himself. His mental ability of doing Math in his head is phenomenal. He is a great storyteller.

He never looks to me for help when he is doing his homework. He is self-sufficient He is doing great.

My 7 year old is very smart too.

He is a different kind of smart.

Real world smart.

He gets along great with other kids. He is a connector.

He is always coming up with new ideas. He is into art and creativity and business (yes, he wants to “become a miner and hunt for diamonds” – his words, not mine.)

He is doing great, as well.

Both of my kids don’t need my help in so many ways.

And yet, they are constantly running their ideas by me. They want to know what they are thinking makes sense. They want to run things by me.

My older one hardly ever needs help with homework, for example, but he shows it to me all the time.

My little one often does, but once he starts, he does a great job. He just needs to know how to start. He just needs to be told that he is doing the right thing.

What they need is permission – permission to go ahead.

And validation – that it makes perfect sense to proceed in this manner.


I get so many clients who in the start of our one-on-one call, after we have explored where they are at, say this to me.

‘Ok, great, I just needed to hear you say that.’

I talk to so many people with perfectly good ideas of starting their businesses but they are stuck and unable to move forward.

They keep accumulating knowledge, they constantly add to their expertise but they don’t know if they can do this.

They don’t know how to get the word out about what they are planning to do. They don’t know if anyone would ever buy from them. They don’t know if they can do a good job of fulfilling a promise they make to these people.

People who have 10 year of industry experience. People who have been in the trenches for years

They are smart business owners. But sometimes they need that little bit of reassurance.

So what should they do?

This is my advice:  If you are wanting to start a website, launch a product or a service, make an offer or look for clients, take the next step.

You don’t have to all it all figured out. You just need to take the next step.

And what if you can’t? Then get someone to help you do that. Ask a peer, a mentor or hire a coach. Get some feedback.

If you are like my 10 year old, then you need someone to have a look at your action steps to see if they align with your overall strategy.

If you are like my 7 year old, then you need someone to glance at your plans and tell you if what you have in your head makes sense and to work out an action plan.

You don’t need another course – unless you do.

Courses are great for filling skill gaps. But often times you just need one person who is qualified to tell you – yes, what you are saying makes sense. Go ahead and do it.


You and I are like little kids.

We are really good are what we do. We are smart entrepreneurs.

Sometimes we need help, but mostly what we need is validation.

Like every child who brings up his work to his teacher (or Mum) and asks, is this right? Am I doing this great?, we need someone to tell us what we are doing is right.

That what we do makes sense.

We need approval.

We just want someone else tell us that what we think about makes sense. We need to hear it from someone else.

We need permission to move ahead.

What kind of permission do you need today?

Leave a comment and I’ll tell you what you need to hear.


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  1. mahjabeen Says :
    Posted on June 23, 2014 at 11:43 am

    great ideas propounded in a great manner…

    Marya, in fact, I am going to start my blog in next few weeks.
    but stuck with the query in my head: whether I should start it with 2-3 different domains or with a single one.
    somebody instructed me to preferably commence it with only one topic and just continue with that.
    what do u say about it?
    as I think that I launch a website with 2-3 distinctive niches separately sectioned in it.
    what do u think about it?

    • Marya Jan Says :
      Posted on June 23, 2014 at 10:57 pm

      Hello Mahjabeen,

      I am a little confused. When you say 2-3 domains, do you mean to say you want to buy more than one for future?
      As far as for the topic, what do YOU want to do? I think it is a good idea to write on one topic. I am assuming you would want to monetize it at some stage, so go with where you have the experience, credentials and experience to offer products or services. You will not hit gold the first time but continue to publish and tweak along the way to find the sweet spot.
      Hope this helps.

  2. mahjabeen Says :
    Posted on June 23, 2014 at 11:46 am

    Marya, I really love ur easy going style.
    It tremendously seeks attention of ur readers.
    adore it:)

  3. Clark
    Posted on June 23, 2014 at 12:20 pm

    YES ….. I completely agree. ‘Permission’ in some shape or form (‘encouragement’) is what many people want and need.

  4. Daphne Cohn Says :
    Posted on June 23, 2014 at 3:46 pm

    This is exactly true and I see it all the time in my work with clients – what we are all asking for is permission and validation. I am continually surprised by how important and necessary that is. Very well said marya.

    • Marya Jan Says :
      Posted on June 23, 2014 at 10:59 pm

      Thanks, Daphne. Deep down we all kinda know what we need to do and what will make us happy. But when it comes down to the execution part, we chicken out. Having people to tell us to continue is what makes all the difference. Thank you!

  5. James Bradrick Says :
    Posted on June 23, 2014 at 7:34 pm

    It sounds like the youngsters are lucky to have you as a mom. You’re right, I believe, about small actionable steps. They are pivotal to building reality, as long as a persons continues to take them. We’d all be very fortunate to have mentors such as yourself to say “Yep, that looks good – now get busy.”
    Thanks for a great post.

    • Marya Jan Says :
      Posted on June 23, 2014 at 10:59 pm

      “Yep, that looks good – now get busy.” LOVE THAT!
      Thanks, James.

  6. melissa Says :
    Posted on June 23, 2014 at 9:56 pm

    Great article Marya, thank you for sharing and I particularly love that we don’t need another course we just need someone to validate what we are doing is right for us.

  7. Margaret | Destination Here&Now Says :
    Posted on June 24, 2014 at 1:22 am

    I’d also add Marya Jan, “follow your bliss”. It might sound a bit hackneyed but if you take your eye off the ball jumping about with too many courses you can lose yourself amidst it all. And you can lose sight of what you really want to do which in my case is to lead a creative life – in whatever form. Getting caught up on the social media hamster wheel or searching for that next thing that will give you an edge can just turn into one endless distraction that stops you from the real art of doing. Or making. Or being original. Take the next step yes. But take it in a focused direction. Really glad I found you – I enjoy your pieces very much.

  8. Eddie Smalls Says :
    Posted on June 24, 2014 at 5:16 pm

    Yeah, Marya. Paralysis by analysis. I’m suffering from that. I am moving ahead with my online biz as we speak. Sharp kids make for good material to use for us adults
    Oftentimes we grow up and lose our innocence. Our ability to just do seems to wane away over time. Thanks for reminding me of that.

  9. Aditya Nath Jha Says :
    Posted on June 27, 2014 at 9:26 am

    Really awesome article, I thoroughly enjoyed it and I identify with the message being conveyed in the article. I feel like the 7 year old child you have, I just need that sort of validation before I start. I also agree with the point that we human beings are inherently insecure and constantly look for validation all around us. We need that validation just in order to feel good, though we already might know everything needed to get the job done.

  10. Roman Prokopchuk Says :
    Posted on November 8, 2014 at 3:26 pm

    Good read, right now is one of the best best time to be an entrepreneur and a lot of the point made should be kept in mind.